Managing The Terrible Twos

The terrible twos have a terrible reputation but, perhaps I was just lucky with my daughter. I breezed through it, and still think of it as one of the most enjoyable ages to mother a child through. Many parents approach their child’s second birthday with an air of trepidation — after all, the phrase “the terrible twos” does not exactly fill one with confidence. In fact, the twos need not be terrible at all. Your child is entering her late toddler years, an incredibly rewarding stage when she is learning at a rapid pace and is increasingly developing into a self-possessed, unique individual. At your toddler’s checkups, your health-care provider will again measure her weight and height and plot these measurements on the standard weight and height growth curves. For information on plotting and reading growth curves, see page 14. Your health-care provider will determine if there are any growth problems and ensure that there are no nutritional or medical concerns. “Normal” on the growth curves is a wide measurement, ranging from those whose weight or height plot below average (3rd to 50th percentiles) to those whose growth is above average (50th to 97th percentiles Few children are, in fact, average or grow exactly alike. Looking at a crowd of peoplt waiting for the bus, some will be taller, others shorter, some slim, others heavier. If you and your partner are both shorter than average, there is a good chance that your toddler will be too. Growth over time More important than determining if your child is above or below average on the growth curves is making note of her growth over time. If she is, for example, on the 25th percentile for height, she should — generally speaking — track along the same percentile from one medical checkup to the next. Of course, there are times when children drop to a lower-percentile curve or jump up to a higher one. This may well be normal, because growth patterns may vary or your child may be moving toward her “genetic destiny.” The third year of life is a busy period of development for your toddler. This year is marked by great changes in motor development as your child becomes more proficient at walking, running, and climbing. She may learn to ride a tricycle. She will learn to draw lines and circles, her language skills will flourish, and she will strive for independence. Your toddler will begin to work through negative feelings, as well as interactive difficulties with siblings, playmates, parents, and caregivers. At this time, your toddler will progress from independent parallel play and learn to play with her peers cooperatively Understanding the normal developmental stages is crucial to helping you as parents navigate through the behavioral challenges that can be expected at this age. While certain attitudes, behaviors, and physical milestones tend to occur at certain ages, a wide spectrum of growth and behavior for each age is normal. Milestones offer a way of showing a general progression through the developmental stages, rather than fixed requirements for normal development at specific ages. Keep in mind that your child will likely attain some milestones earlier and other milestones later than the general trend. If you have questions or concerns about your toddler’s development, speak to her health-care provider. While some developmental variation is normal, it is important to identify any warning signs early so problems can be addressed and appropriate therapy implemented. Consult your health-care provider for a complete assessment if your child meets any of the following criteria by the end of her third year:

  • Frequent falling or difficulty with stairs
  • Persistent drooling or very unclear speech
  • Inability to build a tower of more than four blocks
  • Difficulty manipulating small objects
  • Inability to copy a circle
  • Inability to communicate in short phrases
  • No involvement in pretending while playing
  • Failure to understand simple instructions
  • Little interest in other children
  • Extreme difficulty separating from her mother

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